Kink and BDSM guides
Written by people who have been to the munches and the rope jams. Start with the basics if you are new, look a term up if someone used a word you did not know, or grab a scene idea for tonight. The last group covers how KinkSim itself works.
Starting out
Shibari for Beginners: Nerves First, Then Knots
Shibari for beginners in the right order. Where the radial nerve runs, shears in reach, which rope to buy, then the single column tie drilled on your own leg.
Praise Kink Psychology: Why Good Girl Hits So Hard
Praise kink psychology without the dopamine hand-waving: reinforcement, attachment and power exchange, why good girl works, the degradation overlap, how to ask.
How to Put On a Chastity Cage: Ring, Tube, Lock
How to put on a chastity cage without pinching: size the ring with a string, go ring then tube then lock, use the stocking trick, and know when to take it off.
Chastity Contract: Clauses That Matter, With Samples
A chastity contract is a written negotiation, not a legal document. The clauses worth writing, sample wording, and the mistakes that end dynamics.
Best Bondage Positions for Beginners, With the Risks
The best bondage positions for beginners, chair tie to hogtie, with what each is good for, where it strains, how long it holds, and which nerve to check first.
Scenes, tasks and games
Self Bondage Ideas, Ranked by How Badly They Can Go
Self bondage ideas sorted by risk, after the rules that keep you alive: nothing on the neck, two tested releases, phone in reach, no ice lock as the only exit.
Erotic Roleplay Ideas for Couples, Soft to Kinky
16 erotic roleplay ideas for couples, from strangers at a hotel bar to a negotiated interrogation, each with the setup, the tension, and a line to open with.
Erotic Hypno: How Trance Play Works and Stays Safe
Erotic hypno without the mind-control myth: what trance is, how a session runs, triggers and safeties, drop and aftercare, and why a written induction works.
Chastity Games: 16 Keyholder Games With Real Rules
Sixteen chastity games with real rules: dice, cards, a wheel, coin flips, streaks, task ladders, long distance versions, and how to keep the keyholder happy.
Playing on KinkSim
The Best AI Chat Platforms for Kink and BDSM in 2026, Compared Honestly
A kink-first comparison of KinkSim, Candy AI, OurDream, SpicyChat, GirlfriendGPT, Janitor AI, CrushOn, and Muah AI: free tiers, pricing, media, memory, and what each actually allows.
Praise Kink AI Roleplay: Getting Told You're Good, Properly
What makes praise kink work in AI roleplay: specificity, earned approval, and a partner who remembers what they praised you for. How to set up a praise dynamic on KinkSim.
Is Sexting With AI Cheating, a Sin, or Just Weird? Honest Answers
The questions people actually type at 1am: is sexting with AI cheating on your partner, is it a sin, is it normal, and is it private? Straight answers without judgment.
Degradation Kink AI Roleplay: Cruel Words, Careful Structure
How consensual degradation works in AI roleplay: negotiating the vocabulary, keeping the cruelty inside the scene, and why aftercare matters even with a fictional partner.
Brat Taming With AI: The Fight Is the Foreplay
Playing the brat or the brat tamer with AI characters: why deliberate defiance makes power exchange sharper, and how to keep the game fun instead of frustrating.
Sim Mode vs Player Mode: How KinkSim Chats Actually Work
Every KinkSim chat has a toggle between Sim Mode, where the AI plays the character, and Player Mode, where the creator types live. Here is what each one means.
How-To
Petplay Roleplay With AI: Collars, Commands, and Headspace
How to run a petplay dynamic with an AI character: choosing your role, setting the rituals that build pet headspace, and keeping the dynamic alive across sessions.
How to Dominate an AI Sub: Running the Scene From the Top
Playing the dominant with an AI submissive: setting rules that stick, giving commands that shape the scene, and building a service dynamic that deepens across sessions.
Chastity and Denial Roleplay With AI: Control You Can't Sweet-Talk
Running a chastity or orgasm denial dynamic with an AI keyholder: setting the terms, earning and losing time, and why persistent memory is what makes denial real.
Bondage Roleplay With AI: Writing Restraint That Feels Real
How to make text-based bondage scenes work: describing restraint so it lands, pacing helplessness, and playing either the rigger or the one in the ropes.
How to Write a Character Bio the AI Can Actually Play
The bio is the script the AI performs. Here is how to write one that produces a character with a real voice: behavior over adjectives, wants over lists, and a voice the model can hold.
How to Sext With an AI (And Make It Actually Good)
AI sexting lives or dies on pacing, specificity, and continuity. Here is how to set the scene, keep a character in the moment, and get photos that match the conversation.
How to Run a Femdom Scene With AI (From Either Side of the Kneel)
Serving an AI domme or building one who runs the scene properly: choosing the right dynamic, establishing protocol, and keeping the power exchange sharp across sessions.
How to Make an AI Girlfriend That Actually Feels Like Yours
A practical walkthrough for building an AI girlfriend with a real personality: who she is, how she treats you, what she looks like, and how the relationship deepens over time.
Safety
Aftercare in AI Roleplay: Why the Scene Isn't Over When It's Over
Intense roleplay produces real feelings even with a fictional partner. What aftercare looks like in AI kink chat, when you need it, and how to ask a character for it.
A Beginner's Guide to Online Kink Roleplay Safety and Consent
Consent, boundaries, and aftercare matter in online kink roleplay just as much as anywhere else. A practical guide to playing safely and respectfully.